Dance Chaperone Guide

2017 Dance calendar with maps can be found by clicking HERE.

Details for each dance, including theme and dress code, can be found by logging on to Facebook and searching for “Five Stake Dances”.

Beginning in 2017,  the host stake will provide 20-25 chaperones from its wards.  Additionally, each stake will send 2 stake representatives to every dance to chaperone (either from high council, stake YM/YW presidency member, or stake presidency).  When the Highlands Ranch stake hosts a dance each ward should provide at least 2 chaperones (presumably a member of the bishopric, YW presidency, and/or YM presidency).  Wards are not asked to provide chaperones for dances hosted by other stakes.

Click HERE to see Dance Dress Standards.  Youth are expected to follow these guidelines regardless of the dance theme.

General guidelines & expectations of chaperones:

  • arrive at the dance at 7:00pm (for a 7:30 start time) for brief overview, training and assignments.
  • all chaperones wear Sunday attire
  • become familiar with dress standards (see link above)–sometimes youth change their clothing after checking in so watch for inappropriate dress standards throughout the evening.
  • mosh pits are not permitted and chaperones can turn on the lights in the gym if one forms; also the DJ has been instructed to turn off the music if he sees a mosh pit.
  • keep in mind we want the youth to be at the dance so make every effort to help the youth comply with dress and behavior guidelines rather than asking them to leave.
  • treat the youth and their guests kindly and with respect when resolving issues or discussing concerns
  • don’t be afraid to step in and stop inappropriate dancing
  • please do not bring young children to the dances
  • smile, be friendly and interact with the youth!

From Church Handbook of Instructions Book 2, Chapter 13:


Dances and Music

In all dances, the dress, grooming, lighting, dancing styles, lyrics, and music should contribute to an atmosphere where the Spirit of the Lord can be present (see For the Strength of Youth). Those who oversee dances should carefully follow the policies outlined below.

Leaders use the Performance Contract form when hiring a band, orchestra, or disc jockey. This contract helps ensure that conduct and music are appropriate for Church dances. Those who provide music should not use inappropriate lyrics and should not dress or talk immodestly. Leaders hold auditions and make firm, clear agreements in writing that commit the persons who provide music to follow Church standards when performing for Church activities.

The beat of the music, whether instrumental or vocal, should not overshadow the melody. The volume should be low enough to allow two people who are standing side by side to hear each other as they carry on a normal conversation.

Lights should be bright enough for people to see across the room. Strobe lighting and psychedelic lighting that pulsate with the beat are not acceptable. Lights on the floor, in the corners of the room, or spotlighting wall and ceiling decorations are appropriate.


2018 Theme: “Learn of me, and listen to my words; walk in the meekness of my Spirit, and you shall have peace in me” Doctrine and Covenants 19:23